The Dangers of Dating Before Your Divorce is Finalized

Now that you and your spouse are in the process of getting a divorce, you might feel like now is the right time to pursue a new relationship. After all, divorce can be a stressful and lonely experience and many often feel the need to fill this perceived void with someone new. Unfortunately, dating before your divorce is officially finalized can have some unpleasant repercussions, some of which can affect the outcome of your divorce settlement. Given what is at stake, you would do well to avoid dating until after you and your spouse have effectively dissolved the marriage.

Below is a list of reasons why you should avoid dating during your divorce:

  • Dating can affect your ability settle amicably: No matter who initiated the divorce, seeing your soon-to-be former spouse will definitely cause emotional reactions to some extent. When your spouse finds out that you have a new partner, you can bet he or she will feel a little jealous and bitter. As a result, negotiating a settlement might totally go out the window since he or she may be unwilling to settle, which means your case will have to go through more litigation and the decision will remain in the hands of a judge.
  • Dating will likely affect your ability to co-parent: If you and your spouse share children, you are still going to have to remain in each other’s lives even after your divorce is finalized and the dust settles. Therefore, you should do what you can to nurture a co-parenting relationship that is not hostile. Dating so early on might make your spouse feel disrespected or afraid of being replaced. Instead of fueling your spouse’s fears, insecurities, or feelings of resentment, hold off on dating until after your divorce is finalized.
  • Dating can affect your children: Divorce is an even more difficult experience for children to endure, especially younger ones who will have a more difficult time understanding why this event is happening. They are going to need as much help as they can get from both you and your spouse. Your plate will already be full enough with court dates, mediation sessions, and meetings with your attorney, dating will be taking time away from more pressing matters. Focus on the challenges you are dealing with now and re-enter the dating scene once everything is finalized and you have fewer issues to deal with. If you date during your divorce, your kids might feel they will not get the time that they desperately need to spend with you.
  • Dating will distract you from facing your own emotional troubles: Divorce can make you feel frustrated, upset, lonely, or like a failure. It can be difficult to face these issues and learn how to effectively address them. If you start dating now, you might never take the time to face your issues. Consequently, you might end up making a lot of the same mistakes you previously made. Do a little self-exploration, examine any past mistakes you made during your marriage and, once your divorce is finalized, you can get back into the dating pool.

Compassionate Family Law Attorney in Florida

Divorce is not an easy experience to endure. If you and your spouse are no longer able to continue to make your marriage work, you should not hesitate to obtain the skilled legal representation you will need to ensure the process goes smoothly and your interests are protected. At the Law Office of Jerome P. Ventura in Florida, our knowledgeable family law attorney is backed by over 25 years of experience and a history of success.

Get started on your divorce case today and reach out to our law firm at (954) 280-6119 to request your free initial case evaluation with our compassionate attorney. You should not have to go through this emotionally challenging process on your own.

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